Marriage is not exhausting or stressful in itself, much less because at least one party is irrational or abusive in some way; a specific marriage being a genuine nightmare does not have any ramifications for what other marriages are like. Whenever someone claims otherwise, they are by necessity believing something illogical. There could be a sexist component as well, where the bitter spouse or divorcee thinks it is really because men/women, whichever gender is the opposite one, are so stupid, oblivious, or not suited to long-term relational success that their relationship is in disarray. Thinking that marriage must be distressing or difficult is analogous to thinking marriage must be patriarchal or lead to loss of sexual attraction or any other such thing. Just because marriage can be practiced in a patriarchal manner does not mean it is patriarchal on its own. There are multiple ways to approach or live out a marriage, none of which are for better or for worse intrinsic to marriage itself.
Someone who believes anything to the contrary is irrational because they could only assume; an error has to be assumed true if a person actually believes it, as something false cannot be known to be true no matter how subjectively persuasive it appears. However, in addition to holding to logically erroneous beliefs, this sort of person also increases the likelihood of their delusion sabotaging any following romantic relationships, which they ostensibly approach as if only disaster awaits. Since they have assumed that subsequent marriages are bound for failure because marriage itself is the problem, though they might feel compelled to seek new relationships anyway because of loneliness or interpersonal sexual impulses, they have already set themselves up for failure on a pragmatic level. Another tragic possibility is that they are desperate to find objective stability and personal fulfillment in romantic relationships precisely because they have many negative experiences pertaining to them, but their irrationality makes achieving this less likely.
Their own philosophical and behavioral errors might then easily reinforce the illusory perception that their conclusion is correct. Being irrational, they might in turn think more flawed relationships only confirms the "fact" that marriage or by extension romantic relationships as a whole are a terrible waste of time or energy that could not possibly go well. This is in spite of how the quality of one romantic relationship, marital or otherwise, is not determined by that of another for the logically necessary reasons aforementioned. This cannot be false because logic is intrinsically true. Sheer possibility is determined by consistency with logical axioms alone, which someone who makes assumptions about the nature of romantic relationships based upon personal experience or the potential for them to go wrong has already neglected one way or another. Of course a perfect or stable marriage is possible!
Anybody who clings to logical errors like the stance that marriage is inherently awful is only strengthening the probability of their own relational demise in addition to forsaking rationalistic truth. Certainly, entering a relationship with expectations of failure or dysfunction does not mean that the relationship will inevitably reach such a state. A string of gratuitously broken and terminated marriages thankfully does not necessitate that another marriage is inevitably damned to the same fate! Within the spectrum of logical possibility, any romantic partnership (including a first, second, or third marriage, and so on) is what its participants make of it. Having believed in logical fallacies in the past or actively contributed (by being irrational!) to repeated vicious marital breakdowns does not mean that any mistakes have to be continued. While mistakes can be avoided from the start if rationalistic people are careful enough, they can also be overcome within the relationship. A given marriage truly is to an extent what a couple makes of it!
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