Sex is not the only way to either sexually connect with a romantic partner or gauge if they are actually a great personal fit when it comes to sexuality. Anything not condemned outside of lasting commitment is permissible (Deuteronomy 4:2) even to men and women who are spending their first days together as dating partners, and it is rational and pragmatic to genuinely find out as much as is possible if they are truly compatible sexually. This goes far beyond one partner being open to or gravitating towards polyamorous marriage, which the Bible very blatantly does allow (Exodus 21:9-11, for example), and the other disliking that idea very personally.
A great many things about their individual sexual desires, the intensity of their sexualities, and so on need to at least be addressed in conversation, if not directly by action. Frequency of sexual interaction, the types of sexual interaction, and the individualistic attraction from or towards each partner are all factors that a couple can explore over time before actually deciding to live together as husband and wife. There are ways to explore their sexualities and the interpersonal connection they can behaviorally enjoy without actually having casual sex, and without having sex at all.
No matter how much they anticipate it and hope to have sex together one day, they can do all of this without any sort of preemptive decision to commit and without coming close to giving in to noncommittal sex. It is indeed only sex outside of or not aimed at commitment that is the moral problem (Exodus 22:16-17), and thus a multitude of sexual acts can be shared between them ahead of time to determine how sexually compatible they really are. Words can illuminate part of their affinity for each other; sexual touch of various kinds can clarify more.
An asexual and someone who wants to have sex twice each day or almost constantly engage in smaller sexual acts, for example, would be mismatched unless one or the other was perfectly willing to forgo their natural inclination for the sake of their partner. Perhaps one of them expects to be able to cooperate until they start experimenting. A person who is deeply sexually attracted to their partner might be a poor match for their significant other if the latter is scarcely attracted to them. Someone who prefers sex and someone who prefers mutual masturbation or other forms of sexual stimulation involving both people, again, would have to yield to each other or just find a more compatible partner.
There is nothing wrong about waiting until marriage--legal or otherwise--to discover some of these things, but anyone who is willing to do nonsinful acts with their partner beforehand could have a much better probabilistic awareness of if they really are a good fit. A marriage is not to be terminated unless one party actively sins, after all (Exodus 21:10-11 is relevant to this as well, as are Exodus 21:26-27, Deuteronomy 24:1-4, Matthew 19:9, and 1 Corinthians 7:12-16). Intentionally refusing to discuss or even engage in sexual exploration short of sex that is outside of mutual, permanent commitment can put people at a disadvantage while transitioning to marriage or initially dating. It is Biblically true that no one needs to deprive themself of this opportunity.
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