The Irrationality Of Enforcing Monogamy

Not everyone necessarily even personally cares if their spouse commits adultery, and not only out of apathy towards the relationship, but not everyone who actively wants to have sex with multiple partners while married is adulterous at heart.  Polyamory is Biblically permissible if handled in certain ways (Deuteronomy 4:2 and the verses specifically allowing multiple spouses, such as Exodus 21:9-11, make this explicitly clear), and it is not as if feelings, conscience included, human laws, social norms, preferences, or conveniences have anything to do with morality.  There is no basis for anyone to oppose polyamory.

Some people would love to have multiple spouses if only their original spouse did not, a classic hypocritical disposition, while others would be mortified at the thought of anything other than behaviorally monogamous marriage being morally legitimate whether or not the Bible is true.  Suddenly deciding to actively pursue a polyamorous marriage after already getting married without discuss it beforehand is problematic, yes.  Polyamory itself is not and jealousy does not deter everyone from acknowledging this.  That one person is monogamous at heart or in deed does not logically necessitate that another person is.

Emotionalism and selfishness are the only things that drive anyone to express jealousy over this in any other way than verbalizing it, without committing any fallacies, and then never impose their preferences on others.  They might not think this emotional intensity is relevant for whether murder, or theft, or blasphemy are sinful, but they think that feeling entitled to being the only person their spouse is sexually attracted to is legitimized as something good or admirable, something to strive for, because of its subjective emotional appeal.  Sexual jealousy is so strong for them that they believe or act as if they deserve to engage in controlling behavior aimed at their significant other.

The general societal enforcement of monogamy--and more than that, the idea that extramarital flirtation or attraction or acting on that attraction by self-pleasuring is contrary to monogamous sex--is wholly irrational.  It is illogical and it is unbiblical and yet so many people say it is the opposite of those things.  This legalism, this slavery to feelings, is asinine and vehemently destructive to introspective freedom and relationships themselves.  No one prospers except in delusion from acting on jealousy in irrational ways or from believing it is obligatory.

Individuals and couples are not all polyamorous and this is not erroneous.  What is erroneous is the glorification of monogamy, the emotionalism of giving onto sexual jealousy, the demand for people who do not even want sex with multiple people to give up all attraction to others, and so on.  These things are irrational; these things are deadly to any marriage or dating relationship that deserves to exist.  Insecurity (except as a happenstance psychological state that is not yielded to), legalism, and assumptions are not made valid because they are emotionally alluring to some or any people.