Returning to work day after day to see a former dating partner and feeling distraught does not mean that workplace dating has to conclude this way. A couple could last or they could amicably break up with neither party feeling crushed by seeing them again on a regular basis. Many objections to people dating someone from their workplace reduce down to this non sequitur and rejection of actual logical possibilities besides a disastrous dissolving of a romantic partnership, while others assume that people of different ranks on a company hierarchy will be the ones dating or that, if this is the case, one will exploit the other.
No one needs examples of actual couples that met or married because of work to realize the absolute certainty of workplace dating not having to be a destructive thing. Still, for the sake of illogical ideas and traditions, people might be pressured by company leadership, coworkers, and friends to always divulge if they are dating someone from work, as objectively harmless and positive as it might be. Unless one personally wants to or hopes to avoid the wrath of fools who might find out about the relationship later, there is no reason at all to share this development.
Not everyone, not even single people, is bound to develop romantic or sexual attraction to other people in the workplace. If they do, it can always be handled without forming a relationship, without any pettiness or delusion, and without any impact at all on one's work. For people who find a legitimately available and worthy partner--as in, a rationalist finding another willing rationalist--dating and even marrying them is not problematic. Other people's fallacies and reactions might be problematic, but not the relationship itself. As difficult as it can be to socialize outside of work as an adult, there is not always a better prospective way to meet someone anyway.
Someone who find themself in this situation can always opt to keep the relationship a secret, not damaging their work productivity or their partner's irrelevant reputation (reputation is not someone's actual character although it is invalidly treated as such by many), and not even upsetting the likely asinine, fragile operations of their workplace. To keep this secret from management or HR is no offense against reason or the only moral system that is actually both logically possible and likely to be true (Biblical morality).
Work is already illicitly regarded by many as being what other aspects of life should revolve around rather than the other way around. The common irrationalist of a manager or employer might try to use awareness of workplace dating as an excuse to penalize one or both parties, treat them with suspicion, or withhold promotions. Unless a person wishes to publicize their relationship--which is not irrational on its own--just not ever telling anyone else at work or revealing indicators of an active dating partnership is always a legitimate course of action.
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