Masturbating To Select Opposite Gender Friends

Even if someone has a particular friend of the opposite gender whom they do not wish to date, flirt with, or engage in any sort of sexual activity with, they may still find it pleasurable to masturbate while thinking about the specific friend in question.  Due to cultural prudery and a variety of assumptions, using thoughts or pictures of an opposite gender friend for masturbation is often perceived as something that violates the nature of the friendship and as something that is to be expected from men, but almost never from women.  It may also be mistakenly seen as a universal phenomenon in opposite gender friendships.

There are indeed many friendships between men and women where neither party has any interest in flirting with, masturbating to, or sexually thinking about the other person, but those who do masturbate to an attractive opposite gender friend--whether or not there is actual attraction towards them--have not invalidated the friendship or taken advantage of the friend's relationship with them simply by masturbating in this way.  Perhaps the man or woman being masturbated to by their friend would prefer to not be told about any such habit their friend has, but their friendship has not been disrespected and they have not been violated as an individual.

Men are not more likely than women to sexualize opposite gender friends in this way, but they are more likely to be expected or encouraged to do so, just as they are more likely to discuss the matter due to cultural conditioning.  Regardless, women are not victimized if some of their male friends pleasure themselves while imagining them or looking at pictures of them, just as men are not victimized when women do the same to them.  Only if someone objectifies a friend of the opposite gender while masturbating to them is the friend actually degraded in some way.

Friendship between men and women entails only mutual affection by necessity, which means that sexual attraction does not have to conflict with a friendship at all.  Sexual attraction to a certain friend of the opposite gender can always be acted upon through masturbation if one so desires, but masturbating to select opposite gender friends--again, even looking forward to masturbating to opposite gender friends does not at all mean a person would even think of masturbating to all opposite gender friends--can be savored even without any sexual attraction to them.

Many men and women can certainly be friends without ever wishing to use mental imagery or pictures of each other as masturbation material.  However, everyone can realize that they have not done anything harmful to their friendship if they choose to masturbate to select opposite gender friends with or without sexual attraction as a motivating factor.  The familiarity a person has with their opposite gender friends, the sensuality and perceived attractiveness of their bodies, and the degree of comfort with both opposite gender friendships and sexuality as a whole are all variables that could lead someone to masturbate to opposite gender friends, and there is nothing vile about this.