One of the most basic, obvious indicators that a romantic partner is full of pettiness or legalistic tendencies is an innate dislike of any emotional intimacy their partner shares with someone else of the opposite gender. Another is an innate dislike of their partner appreciating another person's body, either in a sexual or platonic sense. American culture treats this controlling jealousy as if it is a sign of affection or commitment, when it is actually confirmation that a partner is selfish and illogical.
Almost all variations of jealousy are not rational, romantic, or productive; they are instead unintelligent, poisonous, and immoral. The common stance that they are endearing, healthy impulses is thoroughly asinine. If someone loves another person in the fullest sense, they will not actively prevent them from enjoying nonsinful pleasures, and this includes various pleasures associated with cross-gender interaction.
Occasionally, there might be someone who simply struggles with insecurities about their significant other's interaction with the opposite gender even though they would never actually act in a legalistic or controlling manner. In such a case, this does not produce any problems in the relationship of the two significant others, as the insecurity is nothing but a subjective difficulty that the insecure partner will simply have to deal with. The one who struggles with jealousy in this way is not guilty of any error. If this insecurity is ever allowed to manifest itself beyond this, though, it has become a form of controlling legalism.
Almost all variations of jealousy are not rational, romantic, or productive; they are instead unintelligent, poisonous, and immoral. The common stance that they are endearing, healthy impulses is thoroughly asinine. If someone loves another person in the fullest sense, they will not actively prevent them from enjoying nonsinful pleasures, and this includes various pleasures associated with cross-gender interaction.
Occasionally, there might be someone who simply struggles with insecurities about their significant other's interaction with the opposite gender even though they would never actually act in a legalistic or controlling manner. In such a case, this does not produce any problems in the relationship of the two significant others, as the insecurity is nothing but a subjective difficulty that the insecure partner will simply have to deal with. The one who struggles with jealousy in this way is not guilty of any error. If this insecurity is ever allowed to manifest itself beyond this, though, it has become a form of controlling legalism.
A husband's wife is not a slave for him to control. In the same way, a wife's husband is not a slave for her to control. If a person is not secure enough to permit their significant other to befriend the opposite gender, admire the human body, or experience sexual attraction to someone else of the opposite gender, then they do not deserve to be married in the first place. There is a distinct line between adulterous thoughts or behaviors and innocent cross-gender interaction of a platonic or sexual kind, and the Bible clearly defines adultery as nothing but a married person having extramarital sex.
Husbands and wives have no right to act upon sexual or romantic jealousy in any context other than a situation that is actually adulterous (which excludes a great many things that the average person seems to be bothered by). Ironically, many things that trigger insecurity and romantic jealousy are not sexual or romantic in any way at all, though irrational cultural constructs treat them as if they are threatening to the life of a marriage or dating relationship. Anything from platonic emotional intimacy between unmarried (or separately) men and women to the regular use of Biblically legitimate erotic media is neither sinful nor dangerous in itself.
Fits of baseless jealousy do not indicate that a person's partner is guilty of legitimate infidelity, instead establishing that the jealous partner is himself or herself irrational--and perhaps mistaking adulterous inclinations of their own for something everyone struggles with. In many cases, jealousy only highlights the weaknesses and stupidity of the one who succumbs to it.
Logic, people. It is very fucking helpful.
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