A Way Complementarianism Encourages Male Laziness

One of the ways complementarianism encourages entitlement and selfishness in people--and it does this in men and women in extremely dehumanizing, hypocritical, destructive ways no matter how liberals sometimes pretend women are exempt--has to do with bodily appearance.  A certain kind of man, with or without social pressures, just wants to enjoy female beauty without ever thinking of two things: that women want to reciprocate and relish male beauty, and that men and women should both strive to be attractive for their partners in general circumstances.  Even as it degrades men by discouraging them from taking their own appearance and body image seriously and degrades women by pressuring them to be the only ones to prioritize their beauty, it makes it easy for a specific type of man to put little to no effort into his own beauty while demanding the opposite of women.

Complementarianism in its predominant religious or secular forms, the first being nothing but an obvious distortion of what the Bible actually teaches when it is in a Christian context, gives many men and women the socially expected excuse to be lazy and egoistic.  For women, one way laziness is encouraged is when it comes to finances, for men are often financially objectified by complementarians to work themselves to death and women to merely watch it happen.  For men, one way laziness is encouraged is in how women are routinely evaluated and even morally judged on their appearance in one way or another, and the same kind of wholehearted complementarian man who expects this would seldom lift a finger to preserve or enhance his own physical appearance for his significant other.

Men are no less than women beings that can have deep desires to be physically attractive in a platonic or sexual sense.  While it is not as severe as how the common form of complementarianism dismisses sexual and general violence against men, that men have this denied about them and are not encouraged to be open about it is a devastating thing in itself.  However, no matter how much or how little they see their own desire to be attractive mocked or ignored, some men take advantage of the complementarian emphasis on female beauty to the detriment of everyone.  They do not care about how much women might want to enjoy a male body that is taken care of.  They do not care about how much stress or exhaustion women might experience as they try to appease their partners with their appearance, or even society as a whole.

This kind of man is entrenched in utter laziness of a hypocritical kind.  Going as far as to maybe threaten divorce or abuse if a woman does not put an unnecessary amount of effort into her appearance, he would probably be confused if someone was to expect half the same effort from him.  All the more idiotic is that this complementarian man is likely desperate to always be in a romantic relationship and yet remains unwilling to maximize their own beauty for the own sake and the sake of a female partner.  Not every complementarian man necessarily sinks into this as much as others, and some might happen to avoid this tendency altogether despite not being philosophically egalitarian.  Furthering their own oppression and the oppression of women at the same time, the complementarian man who does descend into this is unworthy of the kind of partner who would prioritize her beauty for him.