It is of course not communication that is the ultimate determinant of the life, longevity (in a context that would actually be valid), and worthwhile nature of, say, a marriage. No, only rationality possibly could have such a status: reason is inherently true, making it the sole and intrinsic metaphysical thing on which all else hinges and the grasp of it vital to all holistically, thoroughly healthy relationships. However, most people are not rational, and thus in many relationships there will only be peace because one or both parties are too stupid or uninvested to actually want anything more than a fallacy-based, emotionalistic, egoistic connection without any real justification for its existence other than meaningless subjective fulfillment.
When one or both persons becomes a source of internal tragedy for the relationship, it is not logically inevitable that it is damned to end or to be marked by gratuitous suffering for the rest of its duration. Just because a relationship has been or is positive does not necessitate that it will stay that way--and vice versa. To salvage the relationship or perhaps establish it on solid ground for the first time, both people must be rational, willing, and resolute. One person cannot carry a relationship to its fullest extent even if they are desperately trying to because a relationship requires two beings. The irrational beliefs or actions of one party can ruin the friendship or marriage (or any lesser kind of relationship) as a whole, but for the bond to truly flourish and in a valid philosophical context, both people have to participate in this way.
Otherwise, while it might take time to reach this point if it was not already there, it would cease to be a friendship, which by necessity is about varying degrees of mutuality, or to be a marriage or workplace arrangement worthy of continuation. Both people need to be rational and they need to do their best to also communicate the truth to each other. Short of this, a relationship is at best afloat on pointless fallacies or emotionalism or intentionally clung to despite whatever grievous toxicity has become a part of it. Relational healing is logically possible for any human relationship no matter how much it might feel impossible, as feelings only require that the feelings exist, not that whatever they are aimed at is even consistent with logical axioms (and thus it could only be false).
How relieving and empowering it can be when a flailing or deeply wounded relationship, marital or not, is saved! Unfortunately, many people hold to the assumptions and egoism that thwart healing with their companions or that initiate the problem to begin with. It takes one to damage a relationship that might have been perfect without their mistakes(s). It takes two to both mend and/or preserve a friendship or marriage or other relational connection that is going to last as anything more than a disproportionately desired shackle. Avoiding any irrationality or moral error that devastates a relationship is entirely possible. So is healing it afterward. This does not mean there would be a swift or pleasant process as or before the recovery happens.
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