Allegiance To Oneself

I am the only person I can guarantee is perfectly rational and righteous.  Likewise, any other being like myself has only the power to choose their own respective beliefs, true or false and verifiable or unverifiable, and their own actions.  From this fact, it follows logically that I am the only person who could conditionally deserve my full allegiance becaue I alone have a mind that I can know the existence and contents of.  Yes, this allegiance is still conditional just like it should be for anyone else.  If I was to err, I would have to allow myself to, and self-allegiance is only valid as long as someone is in submission to reason and morality.

Rational, morally legitimate allegiance to a person is not about emotionalism, preference, or pragmatism, but about alignment with reality.  No one deserves extensive devotion because they feel like they do or because someone else finds this idea emotionally satisfying.  If they feel this way, it only means that they have a subjective emotional state that, if they are the one they think deserves automatic allegiance no matter their worldview or behaviors, is extremely irrationalistic and selfish.  Their feelings and any actual obligations are distinct and the latter cannot be known from the former.

Them perceiving that they are entitled to unconditional, unending affection, commitment, or kindness (and withholding kindness is not the same as exhibiting cruelty) necessitates only that they feel this entitlement or have this perception.  Of course a thoroughly irrational person might think that they should never be confronted, hated, mocked, or relationally abandoned; their worldview is about assumptions, which are often believed on the basis of self-serving fallacies.  It is not irrational or unjust to simply withdraw personal allegiance if someone no longer merits it.

The truth is that there is not a single other person one can ever know the future of as long as there is a gulf between minds.  Strangers, coworkers, close friends, and spouses cannot be known beyond external perceptions and evidential probabilities.  Even perfect outward expressions of rationality and righteousness do not mean someone will always be a slave to these things.  No, without warning, they could change, and only one's own self is known and controlled by one regardless of how pathetic other people are.  In light of this, there can be nothing erroneous about being willing to retreat from almost any human relationship under the right circumstances while always remaining devoted to oneself.

This is is not egoism if you are rational and other people are not.  This is not neglect of obligation to others if you are not mistreating them and instead merely refrain from staying loyal to people unworthy of it.  Whether it takes the form of even backing away from a once-wonderful friendship or ending a marriage (when permissible), having very conditional loyalty to other people is a necessity to be on the side of logical truths and moral duties.  Of course this also goes for one's own self.  A person can only deserve their own allegiance if they are in the right, the same reason an outside person would also deserve it.