Self-Pleasuring To Members Of The Opposite Gender Outside Of One's Relationship

Just because a person enters a dating or marriage relationship does not mean that they will stop experiencing sexual attraction to various other members of the opposite gender (at least in the majority case of heterosexuals), although this may happen in some instances.  For men and women who have masturbated to images, memories, or videos of random members of the opposite gender, a change in relationship status may very well not change the habit or the desires behind it.  In fact, masturbating to people whom they are not in a relationship with as opposed to masturbating to their partners may be their preference!  Pleasuring themselves to those they are not dating or married to could even amplify the pleasure.

Some people may even exclusively prefer to pleasure themselves while looking at or thinking of certain members of the opposite gender other than their partners, perhaps because they are already in a relationship with their partner and enjoy the comparative novelty of seeing new bodies or bodies that they do not get to see in person.  The desire to look at bodies of the opposite gender other than that of one's significant other is not a threat to committed relationships, as a person can admire all of them without any degree of discontentment with their own partner.  Even if some members of the opposite gender outside of the relationship are perceived as sexier, one's significant other has not been forgotten, neglected, or betrayed in any way!

Another reason why some men and women may still prefer to only or mostly masturbate to members of the opposite gender besides their spouse (or girlfriend/boyfriend) is familiarity.  Many people have masturbated to at least some member of the opposite gender at one point, if not on an ongoing basis, and the familiarity of such an experience might draw them back even though they can gaze upon, masturbate to, and even masturbate with their significant other.  Moreover, since the experience of pleasure is subjective, someone can prefer to pleasure himself or herself to select people outside of their relationship simply because it is not sinful [1] and because they derive fulfillment or enjoyment from it.

Whichever of these reasons someone may masturbate to members of the opposite gender for, if they do so in the first place, they can know with absolute certainty that they can love their significant other and be entirely content with their relationship as it is while still savoring sexual attraction to others and pleasuring himself or herself because of it (of course, someone can enjoy masturbating to a person of the opposite gender they are not sexually attracted to as well [2]).  Dating and marriage do not confine someone to abstinence from self-pleasuring, sexual thoughts about others, or combining the two.  Neither does Christian morality as it is detailed in the Bible itself as opposed to the assumptions and constructs of many Christians throughout history.

[1].  https://thechristianrationalist.blogspot.com/2018/09/masturbating-to-mental-imagery.html

[2].  https://thechristianrationalist.blogspot.com/2019/12/masturbating-to-erotic-imagery-part-2.html