Amber Heard's Example

Many people pretend like women cannot or do not abuse men, and then they ignore obvious examples of such abuse involving figures who are at least somewhat visible in the public eye.  Even if no specific examples of female-male abuse were ever brought forward, though, it would not follow that there are therefore no cases of it, and examples are not necessary to prove that it is possible for women to abuse men in the first place.  However, a recent celebrity example illustrates just how difficult it can be to get Western culture to take female-abuse seriously on any level.

Actress Amber Heard, former wife of Johnny Depp, claimed that Johnny Depp physically abused her before audio evidence surfaced showing that she has admitted to inflicting abusive behavior on her former husband.  She seems to have cut off part of his finger, thrown objects such as pots at him, and defecated on his bed.  In self-defense, the former two actions would not be inherently wrong, whether they are performed by a man or a woman.  However, there is no evidence that this was the case--and there is much evidence that Amber Heard is simply a cruel, sexist, egoistic person.

A seeming mountain of evidence indicates that Heard is a clear contemporary example of a woman who has abused her husband.  She has received the deserved condemnation of some, but she has also been ignored, like many other women who physically abuse men, in the name of patriarchal values that make men especially vulnerable to being pressured into silence over abuse.  Any true feminist/egalitarian would never regard Amber--or any other woman who abuses her male significant other--any differently than they would regard a man who physically abuses his wife.

Moreover, a true egalitarian would never tolerate the irrational beliefs and sexist stereotypes behind the dismissal of male victims.  Even if the number of male victims of unjust violence from the opposite gender was far smaller than the number of female victims, an individual case of female-male domestic violence would not be less important than an individual case of male-female domestic violence simply because of the gender of the perpetrator and the victim.  Silence on behalf of male victims from people who are vocal about acknowledging female victims reveals a scathing hypocrisy.