A perfect or near-perfect marriage is the only one ever worth exchanging singleness for. While single, there might be great loneliness for certain people, but the same could be true in a marriage of mismatched spouses. While single, there might be moments of boredom in the absence of a romantic partnership, but boredom could also grip people who are married if they choose poorly or allow their marriage to descend into disarray. The only inherent difference between being single or married is the relationship status itself. Every emotion, good or bad, could be experienced in either context.
Happiness, fear, isolation, fulfillment, loneliness, and more are not tied to whether one is single, dating, or married. In fact, no matter how bleak singleness seems to some, it is always the freer, more life-permitting condition out of the possibilities unless a marriage partner has a flawless or almost flawless worldview, total honesty, and genuine, holistic commitment. Any sort of attachment to fallacies, emotionalism, or apathy always hurts a relationship, and of course one could not endure these kinds of trials of one is single.
Someone could be so desperate to find a romantic relationship that they fail to do all that they could have to have ensured an ideal marriage to begin with. It is a tragedy that being single is often regarded as a curse to be thrown aside at the first opportunity. What a destructive approach to what could be a lifelong connection of bliss! Besides being irrational in itself to settle for a non-rationalist or aimless romantic partner, in dating or marriage, such a course of action does no favors to the health of a marriage--the health that will have a direct impact on their lives as long as the marital bond persists.
To be single is to be free from whatever problems a marriage might bring; to be married is to be free from whatever problems singleness might bring. Nonetheless, being single is clearly the less restricting option compared to a confining or abusive or merely pointless marriage. A romantic relationship characterized by philosophical delusion, halfhearted attachment, or delayed transparency is not only based on an inferior foundation, but it is also poised for absolute, swift failure or for a drawn-out, disheartening decay. Truly, if perfection is not the goal and if the partners are not rationalists who actually make no assumptions about perfection or anything else, there is nothing worth pursuing about marriage.
It is often regarded as a delusion to seek after perfection in things of actual substance, like worldview and relationships. It is really the other way around. Irrationalistic and anti-pragmatic at the same time, striving for anything less makes someone a fool for ever having given up their singleness. A subpar marriage or even dating relationship is a special kind of hell in this life, one that only ends with improved maturity on one or both parts or when the relationship is dissolved altogether. Since few are rationalists, almost no one truly wants or understands what must actually be done to become prepared for marriage. It takes so much more than wanting to have sex or hoping to have a roommate.
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